Badmouthing.
Is it fair? OK? Just?
I keep seeing comments OVER and OVER in the debatable topics thread where sentences like "when you have more experience and know better, you'll agree with me" or "my tortoises disprove this theory or care practice, so I obviously know better"
There are also cute little phrases like "anti sulcata" floating around now, that serve only to badmouth. I cannot even fathom another reason for this phrase.
Or the comment in the recent thread telling people to "leave the emotions at home" (with their female companions) when talking on the forum.
ALL of these things serve no purpose but to belittle, or diminish the opinions of another member.
But my question is this: WHY is it "ok" to do so?
It IS well within the rules---if you comment on a thread that someone's POST is stupid, its not a personal attack, just your "opinion". But if you say a member IS stupid, that comment is considered a personal attack.
IMO this nasty-comment-on-a-thread practice is a blatant loop hole, and those members that use this tactic on a daily, or general basis are stomping all over what this forum stands for.
And what about sending a nasty Private Message (PM)?
THAT'S not discussed in the rules either--they only pertain to public posts. It has also been said in another recent thread by a mod, that PMs should NEVER be made public, and would probably be deleted if they were.
So, if you can send a dirty PM and get away with it, should you?
Should it really not be against the rules???
If I called someone names in a thread, I'd get in trouble. But If I do it in a PM its OK?
Along more badmouthing routes,
The "experience" card is touted ALOT on this forum, and not always in a positive way. Practices that are not condoned by the general public are given as advice to newbies in their initial threads, because a single group of tortoises survived the change---so it must be true.
This fits in with my "badmouthing" thread title because the tried and true care methods, such as providing the proper amounts of UVB are bashed and belittled only because of the debate in the science behind it.
Most keepers here are disgusted with pet stores, and their practices. But one of the number-one things that a pet stores never recommend is the use of UVB. So why are "experienced" keepers giving out the same advice? (And I'm not talking the whole substitute-actual-sunlight-instead-of-a-bulb advice here--but words of keepers who claim to raise torts with no access to either of these things)
I'm wondering WHY everyone has gotten a God complex lately--The whole, I know best, and if I can't make you believe it, I'll just pick at you tactic.
Threads on new enclosures, or the smooth growth of young tortoises are picked at and negatively commented on. I've had this happen to me in recent weeks.
So why are innocent threads are being turned into bickering matches, and why does everybody seems primed to jump down everybody else's throat???
Is it the weather? What?
I guess I just want some answers really, to the first few questions of this thread---WHY do people think it is ok to badmouth, and pick at other members?
Is it fair? OK? Just?
I keep seeing comments OVER and OVER in the debatable topics thread where sentences like "when you have more experience and know better, you'll agree with me" or "my tortoises disprove this theory or care practice, so I obviously know better"
There are also cute little phrases like "anti sulcata" floating around now, that serve only to badmouth. I cannot even fathom another reason for this phrase.
Or the comment in the recent thread telling people to "leave the emotions at home" (with their female companions) when talking on the forum.
ALL of these things serve no purpose but to belittle, or diminish the opinions of another member.
But my question is this: WHY is it "ok" to do so?
It IS well within the rules---if you comment on a thread that someone's POST is stupid, its not a personal attack, just your "opinion". But if you say a member IS stupid, that comment is considered a personal attack.
IMO this nasty-comment-on-a-thread practice is a blatant loop hole, and those members that use this tactic on a daily, or general basis are stomping all over what this forum stands for.
And what about sending a nasty Private Message (PM)?
THAT'S not discussed in the rules either--they only pertain to public posts. It has also been said in another recent thread by a mod, that PMs should NEVER be made public, and would probably be deleted if they were.
So, if you can send a dirty PM and get away with it, should you?
Should it really not be against the rules???
If I called someone names in a thread, I'd get in trouble. But If I do it in a PM its OK?
Along more badmouthing routes,
The "experience" card is touted ALOT on this forum, and not always in a positive way. Practices that are not condoned by the general public are given as advice to newbies in their initial threads, because a single group of tortoises survived the change---so it must be true.
This fits in with my "badmouthing" thread title because the tried and true care methods, such as providing the proper amounts of UVB are bashed and belittled only because of the debate in the science behind it.
Most keepers here are disgusted with pet stores, and their practices. But one of the number-one things that a pet stores never recommend is the use of UVB. So why are "experienced" keepers giving out the same advice? (And I'm not talking the whole substitute-actual-sunlight-instead-of-a-bulb advice here--but words of keepers who claim to raise torts with no access to either of these things)
I'm wondering WHY everyone has gotten a God complex lately--The whole, I know best, and if I can't make you believe it, I'll just pick at you tactic.
Threads on new enclosures, or the smooth growth of young tortoises are picked at and negatively commented on. I've had this happen to me in recent weeks.
So why are innocent threads are being turned into bickering matches, and why does everybody seems primed to jump down everybody else's throat???
Is it the weather? What?
I guess I just want some answers really, to the first few questions of this thread---WHY do people think it is ok to badmouth, and pick at other members?