The pain is always there for sure. Overtime, it changes from sharp and intense to a dull ache. My Mom passed away nearly eight years ago and it still hurts. You learn to set it aside and keep going as that is the only option we have. Thoughts and prayers to you and your familyIn the past three years I have lost people l love. The ache can not be described. I learned that over time the pain does not lesson. Over time the pain just isn't the only thing. Every time you remember the person it hurts. You just don't remember the person every second of every awake moment. And you start to have memories that bring peace. I am very sorry for your loss.