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Oh Kathy, I so feel for you. My daughter would not nap ever. It was exhausting.

At 17 months they're very defiant and, I hate to say this, but tough love involving a bed in a safe place and a child gate so he can't get out is needed.

You also find that the better he sleeps at night the worse they sleep by day and I know which I prefer.

I used to take her out for long walks in the pushchair. She'd fall asleep and then I would leave her asleep in the pushchair outside the back door (with rain cover and blankets as necessary) while I got on with my jobs. It was the only way.

We used controlled crying to get her to stay asleep at night.

Night 1: She cried, we would go and comfort her but not pick her up and then leave her, returning every 15 minutes until she was asleep. It took forever and a lot of stress for me.

Night 2: Same again, but every 20 minutes - it took about 2 hours.

Night 3: She gave up after half an hour and slept through the night. :)

I did all that with my kids but it's different when it's someone else's.
I feel really guilty letting him cry it out. Because his mom doesn't.

I did it a few days and he cried for 2 hours but then I had to grab him and go to school pick up.

Yesterday he laid down fine and woke 30 minutes later so I left him because I was cooking dinner ahead of if time. He just whined and talked and talked.
I didn't feel bad because he wasn't screaming. It felt good to things done. I bet he would have fallen back to sleep but it was school pick up again.
Thank goodness I have the day off today!!
 

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Good afternoon everyone @CDR hope you're all well. :D

@Tidgy's Dad , how is Tidgy today? :<3: Is she eating? What about that kick that Wifey gave her? Poor little thing. :( Glad that it's nothing serious. :)
Just a nudge really, but next time it could be worse.
wifey getting old, I need to keep them apart. :(
Tidgy not eating but very active, unusually so. o_O
Good afternoon, Gillian, good afternoon, Oli.:)
 

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Well I was suspended from school for not giving up my phone and the teacher also left out details and lied about some things in her comment to the administration.
Oh dear Austin. I am SO sorry to hear this. :(

I see the other side of this too often. In the UK, students that are suspended frequently have to see a panel of school governors.

I know you don't want to be there, but you really need to go with the flow. There are rules and the time until you can leave will go much more quickly and pleasantly for you if you stick to them. They cannot make exceptions just for you.

Fighting the system will just make you even more angry and upset :(

Over here, we have something called a Managed Move - you transfer to another school so you get the chance for a fresh start with different teachers. I don't know if that's an option for you.

Please don't get angry with me for what I have said. I get very sad every time I have to see students in this situation. The system isn't working for them and I really want to try to help them out.
 

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My godmother is "still seething, but calmer" thank goodness. She has now left the acute ward and is roundly blaming her husband like he deliberately had a heart attack :D

Fortunately he's in a different hospital and should be having his bypass surgery as I type this.

Thanks for asking :)
Wishing you all the very best.:<3:
 

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Oh dear Austin. I am SO sorry to hear this. :(

I see the other side of this too often. In the UK, students that are suspended frequently have to see a panel of school governors.

I know you don't want to be there, but you really need to go with the flow. There are rules and the time until you can leave will go much more quickly and pleasantly for you if you stick to them. They cannot make exceptions just for you.

Fighting the system will just make you even more angry and upset :(

Over here, we have something called a Managed Move - you transfer to another school so you get the chance for a fresh start with different teachers. I don't know if that's an option for you.

Please don't get angry with me for what I have said. I get very sad every time I have to see students in this situation. The system isn't working for them and I really want to try to help them out.
Oh it's fine but the whole sorry and things is just weird and dumb for having to be suspended when everyone else is on their phone. It's cool tho! I get Friday off I guess.
 

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I just made my girlfriend pretty upset and stressed out. I feel very selfish for wanting a lot of attention the last two weeks after all the personal stuff happening to me. Tend to ask for a lot of time with her..
Tell her what you just told us.
Apologize and tell her what a comfort she is to you.
She should understand. :)
 

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Tell her what you just told us.
Apologize and tell her what a comfort she is to you.
She should understand. :)
I did and then she just realized how inconsiderate she was and just thinking about herself. I told her it's fine and just to go hang out with your friends at the park as I stay busy with the things I need to get done with.
 

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Oh it's fine but the whole sorry and things is just weird and dumb for having to be suspended when everyone else is on their phone. It's cool tho! I get Friday off I guess.
It's not fine though, is it?

A day off is day when you're not learning and if you're not learning that's not fine for you.

I know you struggle to realise it, but you need your education no matter how much you hate being at school.
 

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Sometimes you have to give each other space no matter how needy you feel.

A relationship is based on trust and if she feels she isn't being let out of your sight, she will start to feel like you don't trust her or are trying to control her.

I know you've had a very tough time recently, even if I did miss a large chunk of it because I was busy, and you don't mean to crowd her.

Try to step back and make sure you have something special planned for Valentine's Day to show her how you feel :)
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrgggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Valentine's Day !!!!!!
I had forgotten! :eek:
 

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Just a nudge really, but next time it could be worse.
wifey getting old, I need to keep them apart. :(
Tidgy not eating but very active, unusually so. o_O
Good afternoon, Gillian, good afternoon, Oli.:)

Hello Adam, Wifey and Tidgy. :D

"Wifey, please be careful" and that is a message from Oli not from me. ;) Thank GOD it wasn't anything serious.

Believe it or not Oli's exactly the same; i.e: very active but just would not eat today. :confused:
 

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