Liljae9263
Active Member
This is going to be a very honest post,
Weeks ago, I received a comment on here that made me feel like I wasn’t doing a good job at caring for Frankie boy and it made me very depressed. (Not only that but my work had gotten BAD for about a month and it JUST started getting better)
I want the best for my baby boy and I TRY my BEST to make that possible but I also know I have limitations. I live in an itty bitty apartment that doesn’t have much room to spare and I certainly don’t have the outdoors room. I wanted to build him a double decker enclosure to give him a little bit more room and when I shared the idea it was almost immediately shot down on here and by my loved ones irl. I never really got in depth feedback to let me know what else I should be making for him if not that. And my loved ones just told me “ur apartment is too small. Ull have to wait till u get something bigger. He’s fine in there.” They don’t understand that he’s a roaming animal and needs the room. Not only that but it just makes me so sad seeing him in there. Like Ik he deserves better and I keep having that voice in my head telling me I’m doing a terrible job.
We all know the job market is trash rn and that even though I am making the most I have ever made in my life it is still not enough for me to afford anything more than my tiny busted up apartment. And I know that earning more money is going to continue to be an uphill battle like it has been for the last 5 years of my life. So getting a bigger place is FAR off. That’s why I’m trying to make a good home for me and baby boy HERE. I’ve been using the money I have left over at the end of the month to buy things to make the apartment nicer and I WANT to give some to Franklin but idk what to do.
Idk if I’m explaining this well, I just wish someone could tell me “this is possible. U can do this” or that I could SEE what is some options for me. I feel so stuck where I am.
A part of the comment I received pointed out that Franklin was pyramiding. And yall KNOW I am always paranoid about that. I thought he was doing good, I thought I fixed it, but I haven’t seen any new healthy growth and idk what’s wrong. The only thing I can think of is that the UVB bar isn’t in a good spot for him to get the vitamins. He normally stays on the basking side and the bar is in the middle, where I was told to put it. I wonder if moving it towards the basking side would help him get what he needs. (I’ve asked my folks to help me upgrade his current enclosure if I can’t build him a whole new one and part of that was moving the bar and I haven’t really heard anything back so I’m trying to figure out how to do it on my own or if there is someone else in my life I can ask :/)
I’m not sure what else I could be doing wrong if it’s not that. His humidity stays in the 70-90 % range especially since it’s been consistently in the 90’s over here. His temps all look good. He still eats endive and radicchio as I’m STILL trying to figure out the best way to grow the plants he actually needs, but he gets his pellets and Miner-all once a week like I was told. He gets hay to munch on through out the week and I also have a tortoise grass mix that was highly suggested on here I give him once or twice a week. He gets soaked every other day for at least 45 min. And he seems overall healthy. He does his daily walks, basks, eats, sleeps. I’m not sure what could be making him pyramid still and how to fix it.
I’m also dealing with a serious gnat problem. They are everywhere! I have multiple plants in my place and I spray them with safe pesticide but franklins enclosure is basically just a big box of moist dirt, exactly what they love, and I can’t just load that down with pesticides and hope it doesn’t hurt Frankie. My brilliant plan so far is just to get those gnat ribbons and put it up at the top of his enclosure so Franklin won’t be anywhere near it and HOPE it catches a good deal of them. Otherwise idk what to do. He doesn’t seem to mind them but I DO. They’re driving me crazy and I want them gone UGH.
I don’t want to give up on him. I love him so much and I want the best for us both. I want to be an old fart living on a big property with my tortoise roaming around, but I’m not there yet. Ik it is not fair to keep leaving his needs on the back burner bc “the place isn’t big enough”. I want to do SOMETHING to make it better now. I’m just not sure what anymore. If anyone has any ideas PLZ let me know. I feel so utterly trapped and I want to do SOMETHING for him.
(Added some pics so yall can see his growth!)



Weeks ago, I received a comment on here that made me feel like I wasn’t doing a good job at caring for Frankie boy and it made me very depressed. (Not only that but my work had gotten BAD for about a month and it JUST started getting better)
I want the best for my baby boy and I TRY my BEST to make that possible but I also know I have limitations. I live in an itty bitty apartment that doesn’t have much room to spare and I certainly don’t have the outdoors room. I wanted to build him a double decker enclosure to give him a little bit more room and when I shared the idea it was almost immediately shot down on here and by my loved ones irl. I never really got in depth feedback to let me know what else I should be making for him if not that. And my loved ones just told me “ur apartment is too small. Ull have to wait till u get something bigger. He’s fine in there.” They don’t understand that he’s a roaming animal and needs the room. Not only that but it just makes me so sad seeing him in there. Like Ik he deserves better and I keep having that voice in my head telling me I’m doing a terrible job.
We all know the job market is trash rn and that even though I am making the most I have ever made in my life it is still not enough for me to afford anything more than my tiny busted up apartment. And I know that earning more money is going to continue to be an uphill battle like it has been for the last 5 years of my life. So getting a bigger place is FAR off. That’s why I’m trying to make a good home for me and baby boy HERE. I’ve been using the money I have left over at the end of the month to buy things to make the apartment nicer and I WANT to give some to Franklin but idk what to do.
Idk if I’m explaining this well, I just wish someone could tell me “this is possible. U can do this” or that I could SEE what is some options for me. I feel so stuck where I am.
A part of the comment I received pointed out that Franklin was pyramiding. And yall KNOW I am always paranoid about that. I thought he was doing good, I thought I fixed it, but I haven’t seen any new healthy growth and idk what’s wrong. The only thing I can think of is that the UVB bar isn’t in a good spot for him to get the vitamins. He normally stays on the basking side and the bar is in the middle, where I was told to put it. I wonder if moving it towards the basking side would help him get what he needs. (I’ve asked my folks to help me upgrade his current enclosure if I can’t build him a whole new one and part of that was moving the bar and I haven’t really heard anything back so I’m trying to figure out how to do it on my own or if there is someone else in my life I can ask :/)
I’m not sure what else I could be doing wrong if it’s not that. His humidity stays in the 70-90 % range especially since it’s been consistently in the 90’s over here. His temps all look good. He still eats endive and radicchio as I’m STILL trying to figure out the best way to grow the plants he actually needs, but he gets his pellets and Miner-all once a week like I was told. He gets hay to munch on through out the week and I also have a tortoise grass mix that was highly suggested on here I give him once or twice a week. He gets soaked every other day for at least 45 min. And he seems overall healthy. He does his daily walks, basks, eats, sleeps. I’m not sure what could be making him pyramid still and how to fix it.
I’m also dealing with a serious gnat problem. They are everywhere! I have multiple plants in my place and I spray them with safe pesticide but franklins enclosure is basically just a big box of moist dirt, exactly what they love, and I can’t just load that down with pesticides and hope it doesn’t hurt Frankie. My brilliant plan so far is just to get those gnat ribbons and put it up at the top of his enclosure so Franklin won’t be anywhere near it and HOPE it catches a good deal of them. Otherwise idk what to do. He doesn’t seem to mind them but I DO. They’re driving me crazy and I want them gone UGH.
I don’t want to give up on him. I love him so much and I want the best for us both. I want to be an old fart living on a big property with my tortoise roaming around, but I’m not there yet. Ik it is not fair to keep leaving his needs on the back burner bc “the place isn’t big enough”. I want to do SOMETHING to make it better now. I’m just not sure what anymore. If anyone has any ideas PLZ let me know. I feel so utterly trapped and I want to do SOMETHING for him.
(Added some pics so yall can see his growth!)


