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I tend to agree with Meg on this in terms of how people perceive the worth of animal.
Let me elaborate my point...when people do not pay (by money, with pain or by effort) they are generally not emotionally invested in the object (pet/love object or in the relationship). It's a simple psychology. Whatever you call it--adoption, rehoming or the special de jour sale--when it comes out of their wallet, it helps for people to commit to something they expect something out of... unless money means nothing to the person. It they don't at least go out of trouble, they don't expect much and don't care much. Should something happen to that animal, the person could possibly say "oh, well...it was free after all and I didn't lose much." It sort of sets up a priority or power dynamics, if you will, within one's psyche on what's important and not.
BTW -- This is where generous "understanding" women often get screwed and the bitches get their way with men!
Let me elaborate my point...when people do not pay (by money, with pain or by effort) they are generally not emotionally invested in the object (pet/love object or in the relationship). It's a simple psychology. Whatever you call it--adoption, rehoming or the special de jour sale--when it comes out of their wallet, it helps for people to commit to something they expect something out of... unless money means nothing to the person. It they don't at least go out of trouble, they don't expect much and don't care much. Should something happen to that animal, the person could possibly say "oh, well...it was free after all and I didn't lose much." It sort of sets up a priority or power dynamics, if you will, within one's psyche on what's important and not.
BTW -- This is where generous "understanding" women often get screwed and the bitches get their way with men!