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Moozillion

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I'm really glad to know that people are able to have a civil divorce. My own patents divorce was ugly and Ben's parents divorce is turning into the same. There's so many hurt feelings, people have a hard time staying civil. I do understand that some people just aren't right for each other because personal growth has taken them both in separate directions. It's curious though, supposedly statistics say that after 10 years or so the chance of divorce goes way down.
When I was getting divorced, a friend told me about a study done on long marriages.
The psychology department of a major university wanted to study what makes a good marriage. They looked at a number of big city newspapers for announcements of couples celebrating their "Diamond Anniversary" (which is 50 years of marriage). They interviewed about a hundred such couples. What they found was 50% of the couples COULDN'T STAND EACH OTHER!!!
They had separate bedrooms, separate friends, separate activities etc. They had stayed together for either religious reasons, financial reasons, social reasons etc.
So the important thing they learned was that LONGEVITY of a marriage does NOT necessarily correlate with a healthy relationship.
 

meech008

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This year would be our tenth. Had I only known that when I was approached, I might have been able to change the outcome simply by saying, “Let's wait another 6 months and then see."
No really, if it weren't for the costs involved and the lowering of ones personal standards(you say things not typical of you for example) this is okay. Yes I'm loosing a lot, but then also, I'm just a small speck in the greater picture of the universe and I get that there are things I'm not meant to understand.
The Universe works in mysterious ways. The grace and dignity which you are displaying is inspiring
 

Tidgy's Dad

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Great Wall
No!
Wa! Wa!
Urban myth.
The moon is far too far away, even the continents are difficult to make out.
No man made artifact is visible.
And the wall is now disappearing due to being used to build houses and sold as souvenirs.
 

meech008

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When I was getting divorced, a friend told me about a study done on long marriages.
The psychology department of a major university wanted to study what makes a good marriage. They looked at a number of big city newspapers for announcements of couples celebrating their "Diamond Anniversary" (which is 50 years of marriage). They interviewed about a hundred such couples. What they found was 50% of the couples COULDN'T STAND EACH OTHER!!!
They had separate bedrooms, separate friends, separate activities etc. They had stayed together for either religious reasons, financial reasons, social reasons etc.
So the important thing they learned was that LONGEVITY of a marriage does NOT necessarily correlate with a healthy relationship.
You're absolutely correct. Maybe that's why the divorce rate is getting higher, is those "convictions" aren't the same.
 

Cowboy_Ken

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The Universe works in mysterious ways. The grace and dignity which you are displaying is inspiring
I'd not want that to be my legacy. To be sure, I've said and done things during all this that I'm not proud. I've just only recently really seen that the big picture is more than me.
 

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I think I was technically engaged once. Or maybe still am. If someone makes one of those "if we're not married at 30 pacts", do you just roll it over if the conditions aren't met when the deadline rolls around.
 

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Definitely points.
The longest recorded animal was a specimen of the bootlace worm Lineus longissimus washed up on the shores of Britain that measured between 160 and 190 feet .
However, the British badly wanted this record and there is evidence that the animal has been stretched.
Secondly, bootlace worms themselves can stretch themselves abnormally long in a dangerous situation so it'd be like you measuring yourself while standing on tiptoe with your neck stretched up or even you hands above your head.
So excluding dubious results obtained from the bootlace worm by the British (ahem) and some others, what is the longest animal?
 

Abdulla6169

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Definitely points.
The longest recorded animal was a specimen of the bootlace worm Lineus longissimus washed up on the shores of Britain that measured between 160 and 190 feet .
However, the British badly wanted this record and there is evidence that the animal has been stretched.
Secondly, bootlace worms themselves can stretch themselves abnormally long in a dangerous situation so it'd be like you measuring yourself while standing on tiptoe with your neck stretched up or even you hands above your head.
So excluding dubious results obtained from the bootlace worm by the British (ahem) and some others, what is the longest animal?
Snake?
 
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