COLD DARK ROOM

[Lyn W]

I will also say goodnight now.
So enjoy the rest of your Wednesday and take care.
Nos Da friends!

 

[Kristoff]

Good evening Lena, and everyone else at CDR.

No, thank God I did not. But someone I know got bitten by a dog very long ago. Since then I've been scared to death of dogs. And I just cannot get rid of this fear. Mind you, I was lucky it didn't happen in front of me.

I’m terrified of heights... and grasshoppers!

 

[Kristoff]

That's exactly how I felt today: Oli wouldn't calm down so I couldn't take a nap/relax. And I am convinced that torts (unlike cats and dogs) cannot be trained to do anything.

I agree - they train us!

Can’t speak for dogs much, but I’m pawsitive cats can train us too!

 

[Kristoff]

Good morning, roommates!
I had a tapas night with a friend last night, the first night out in forever. It was great!
If anyone has watched the Danish post-apocalyptic series “Rain”, the second season is being filmed now in front of our cathedral. Husband and I didn’t finish the first season because we’re quite spoiled by good series, so this filming, albeit interesting as a process, is more relevant for the road blocks it’s creating.
Happy Eid to everyone who celebrates!
Adam reminded me about it, as promised, via email. Which was sweet of him, bless him, but I’m not sure I have it in me to respond. I’m too disappointed — and, yes, angry — over his Second Departure.

 

[JoesMum]

Sounds exciting!
Hope you found a few candles!
Nos Da Linda sleep well and hope you have a good day tomorrow whatever your plans.

Citronella candles for light and cheese salad for dinner accompanied by a bottle of wine with a sound and light show for entertainment. It was a very pleasant evening actually

 

[JoesMum]

I’m terrified of heights... and grasshoppers!

Ah. Just as well you weren't in our car yesterday afternoon. There was a huge grasshopper inside which landed on JoesDad. He got out and Daughter persuaded it to jump off him!

 

[Kristoff]

Ah. Just as well you weren't in our car yesterday afternoon. There was a huge grasshopper inside which landed on JoesDad. He got out and Daughter persuaded it to jump off him!

!! Just thinking about it... !!!

 

[JoesMum]

Good morning to the early birds and those that should be in bed but aren't.

Good morning, roommates!
I had a tapas night with a friend last night, the first night out in forever. It was great!
If anyone has watched the Danish post-apocalyptic series “Rain”, the second season is being filmed now in front of our cathedral. Husband and I didn’t finish the first season because we’re quite spoiled by good series, so this filming, albeit interesting as a process, is more relevant for the road blocks it’s creating.

It is fascinating watching film crews at work!

Happy Eid to everyone who celebrates!

Happy Eid to those who celebrate from me too

Adam reminded me about it, as promised, via email. Which was sweet of him, bless him, but I’m not sure I have it in me to respond. I’m too disappointed — and, yes, angry — over his Second Departure.

I am annoyed too, but not entirely surprised. He once told me he was cross with John for just disappearing "I thought he was my friend"... and yet he does the same to us at regular intervals. There is no point wasting energy being annoyed with him. If he doesn't want to be here then that's his choice. We are more than capable of organising the Christmas Cards and TORTOISE without him if necessary; it needs to be drawn by the end of September; I'd suggest we warn him first though! Jacques might have to do the draw in place of Tidgy

None of us is perfect and Adam has his own imperfections and demons too. The manner in which he walked out was at best bizarre, but we can't see what is going on in his head; I'm not sure he can either.

 

[CarolM]

THANK YOU! There is a particular store here I use to do my shopping most times and there is this woman who “works” the parking lot begging for money. It really ticks me off! If she showed up near as diligently for a real job, she wouldn’t be in the situation she was in. I get so angry every time I see her because I’m always wondering if I should really be helping when I see these people and I know she ruins it in my mind for the people who might truly need help. Huge soap box for me!!! [emoji35][emoji35][emoji35]

That is often the dilema that i sit with. On the one hand we shouldn't judge. But you cannot help it but to judge. So do you help when you can regardless or do you try and give to those you have judged to really need it?

 

[CarolM]

You can always retire again, tonight

Thats what Lyn said.

 

[CarolM]

I bet a lot of people would sign it. But I’m not one of them!

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[CarolM]

Thank you! Catching up properly now.

I am catching up now too.

 

[CarolM]

Thank you, Lyn! I’ll have an even better one tomorrow — tapas with a friend in the evening. The dads will stay with the kids.

Best kind of evening.

 

[CarolM]

Mom seriously thinks that she can still work, pay her own bills and live without assistance.
The truth is that most days she can't even dress herself.
She is in the best home I'm aware of. Better. Cleaner than any facility near to me.
She has no worries. No financial responsibility and round the clock care.
But its 500 miles away. (Each way)
She has no guilt. She's angry and frustrated.
I feel guilty because I'm always second guessing myself if I'm doing the right thing.

Stop second guessing yourself. You know in your heart that you are doing the right thing.

 

[CarolM]

OK, time to get ready for the school meeting.

How did it go?

 

[JoesMum]

Stop second guessing yourself. You know in your heart that you are doing the right thing.

I agree. Ed, you are doing the right thing and you do know you are.

None of us wants to get to the stage where we have to make decisions for our parents. It's a role reversal that is probably harder for our parents than it is for us. Having your child decide what's best for you, especially when your mind doesn't see how incapable you have become, must be very hard. My 'cousin' (she is actually my godmother's daughter, but the lack of a blood tie makes no odds) has this problem with my godmother. Her mum has dementia and it is probably more cruel to my cousin than my godmother who really cannot see why she cannot live alone or why my cousin has control of everything. Not that she recognises my cousin half the time; my godmother definitely doesn't recognise me now

 

[CarolM]

Howdy Everyone!
Did anybody else have issues with the forum app yesterday? It kept telling me I wasn't logged in, I didn't have permission to reply to any posts, and the pictures were extremely tiny. It was still glitchy this morning so I uninstalled and reinstalled and it seems to be working fine now.

Sorry didnt get a chance to come online yesterday.

 

[CarolM]

Took our new dog to the vet and learned he is a bit older than 3 and needs $1000 worth of dental work done. He also has a soft knee.

I need help! He pooped over night and I needed to scrub and I can’t get the smell off my fingers[emoji53]
I tried bleach, comet, rubbing alcohol and rubbing them on stainless steel. Help!!!

Put bicarbonate of soda abd lemon juice in water. Soak your hands for a few minutes then wash them and rub a nice smelling cream on.

 

[CarolM]

I got a laugh with this one!!
It’s totally me!!!

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[CarolM]

We fed our cat Pro Plan too, as per his vet’s recommendation. The cat version, obviously.

We don't get it anymore. I have searched high and low for it here. For some reason they have decided to take it off the market - at least in Cape Town anyway.