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Maggie Cummings
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I at first wanted to put this in the debatable section, but I don't really want to argue about it, I want to understand why.
I am an open honest vocal trustworthy person.
I have known X for 5 or 6 years. We have one of those Internet friendships. We have emailed privately and he has recommended me to several people in Oregon who have had chelonia problems. I always felt that we liked and respected each other.
I have always complained about the shipping charges at XXX. But I have also recommended XXX to hundreds possibly thousands of people, for the seeds and the lights and all the other stuff a person needs for raising tortoises.
Last summer here on the forum I made a very derogatory remark about the shipping charges using a seriously unfortunate choice of words as I was recommending XXX to a newbie. I thought I was mostly being funny.
Someone here on the forum forwarded my derogatory comment to X. Now I repeat, I have recommended XXX to hundreds or maybe even thousands of people and not one has ever forwarded my positive recommendations to X.
A couple of years ago I got into a public debate with a very well known tortoise author/lecturer. Several months ago I called him a funny name here on the forum and someone had to quickly forward that comment to him so he could very quickly join the forum so he could see for himself what I was saying about him, but by that time I had moved on and the powers that be told me if I wanted to stay here on the forum I shouldn't use that name again.
Just recently my sister had a shipping problem that she talked about here on the forum and on the WCT list. My sister has recommended turtlestuff.com to thousands of people over the years and yet not one person has forwarded her positive recommendations to turtlestuff, but they certainly rushed to forward the one disagreeable post she made about the situation to Annie.
The point of this is to ask why someone would forward those comments on? Were they trying to cause trouble? I don't understand the reasoning behind forwarding my one derogatory comment about X shipping when they hadn't forwarded any of the positive comments I have made over the years about X and his lists and businesses. I have turned hundreds of people onto X lists and businesses...Forwarding that comment on to X caused very much pain to both X and I and it caused a rift in our friendship. In fact there is no friendship any longer. Yes I made a very unfortunate choice in wording but I said it, so I will own it but what was the point in sending that comment on to X? What was that supposed to accomplish? It was mean, done with a mean intent. That is what this thread is about. Why would someone forward a bad comment? What is the point? My comment was not said with a mean intent. I thought I was mostly being funny. But forwarding that post on was mean. It was mean and it hurt people. Yes, what I said certainly didn't come across the way I meant it, but I didn't say it to be mean. I was being slightly sarcastic and mostly funny. But NOT mean. However forwarding on one derogatory comment to X was mean. If I made continually insulting comments about X I could see then the why of forwarding the comments on. But one comment??? What my sister said about turtlestuff was not mean and it wasn't said with a mean intent. But forwarding the comments on was mean and done with a mean intent.
I don't understand how I became so important that one bad comment had to be forwarded on, Why? So that's the thread... Why forward the comments on??? NOT...why were they said in the first place...this is the why were they forwarded on...Why?
I am an open honest vocal trustworthy person.
I have known X for 5 or 6 years. We have one of those Internet friendships. We have emailed privately and he has recommended me to several people in Oregon who have had chelonia problems. I always felt that we liked and respected each other.
I have always complained about the shipping charges at XXX. But I have also recommended XXX to hundreds possibly thousands of people, for the seeds and the lights and all the other stuff a person needs for raising tortoises.
Last summer here on the forum I made a very derogatory remark about the shipping charges using a seriously unfortunate choice of words as I was recommending XXX to a newbie. I thought I was mostly being funny.
Someone here on the forum forwarded my derogatory comment to X. Now I repeat, I have recommended XXX to hundreds or maybe even thousands of people and not one has ever forwarded my positive recommendations to X.
A couple of years ago I got into a public debate with a very well known tortoise author/lecturer. Several months ago I called him a funny name here on the forum and someone had to quickly forward that comment to him so he could very quickly join the forum so he could see for himself what I was saying about him, but by that time I had moved on and the powers that be told me if I wanted to stay here on the forum I shouldn't use that name again.
Just recently my sister had a shipping problem that she talked about here on the forum and on the WCT list. My sister has recommended turtlestuff.com to thousands of people over the years and yet not one person has forwarded her positive recommendations to turtlestuff, but they certainly rushed to forward the one disagreeable post she made about the situation to Annie.
The point of this is to ask why someone would forward those comments on? Were they trying to cause trouble? I don't understand the reasoning behind forwarding my one derogatory comment about X shipping when they hadn't forwarded any of the positive comments I have made over the years about X and his lists and businesses. I have turned hundreds of people onto X lists and businesses...Forwarding that comment on to X caused very much pain to both X and I and it caused a rift in our friendship. In fact there is no friendship any longer. Yes I made a very unfortunate choice in wording but I said it, so I will own it but what was the point in sending that comment on to X? What was that supposed to accomplish? It was mean, done with a mean intent. That is what this thread is about. Why would someone forward a bad comment? What is the point? My comment was not said with a mean intent. I thought I was mostly being funny. But forwarding that post on was mean. It was mean and it hurt people. Yes, what I said certainly didn't come across the way I meant it, but I didn't say it to be mean. I was being slightly sarcastic and mostly funny. But NOT mean. However forwarding on one derogatory comment to X was mean. If I made continually insulting comments about X I could see then the why of forwarding the comments on. But one comment??? What my sister said about turtlestuff was not mean and it wasn't said with a mean intent. But forwarding the comments on was mean and done with a mean intent.
I don't understand how I became so important that one bad comment had to be forwarded on, Why? So that's the thread... Why forward the comments on??? NOT...why were they said in the first place...this is the why were they forwarded on...Why?